Let's hear it for grandma and grandpa
This year observance of Grandparents Day, for many, was surely lost in the solemn observance of 9/11. The 10-year anniversary of 9/11 and Grandparents Day fell on the same day.
So, allow us a moment to reflect on the importance of grandparents. Their value to a family and society should not be overlooked. According to AARP, 4.9 million children (or 7 percent) under age 18 live in grandparent-headed households.
The book “How To Build The Grandma Connection,” points out grandparents never doubt their grandchildren are VIPs.
“Anthropologist Margaret Mead once even stated that connections between the generations are essential for the mental health and stability of a nation,” the book says.
Grandparents are more important than ever in two-career and single-parent families.
“An involved grandparent goes a long way to filling a void for children,” the book says. “In extreme situations, the courts have found it’s often a grandparent who can reach a troubled teen when no one else can.”
The book goes on to say a special kind of love you get from a grandparent is a love you can’t get anywhere else.
“It is an important kind of love — in fact, a very important kind of love,” the author says. “Parents have to worry about who children will become in the future; their role is to be providers and disciplinarians. Grandparents can just enjoy children for who they are in the moment. The love of a grandparent is often freer, more unconditional, and far less psychologically complex than a parent’s love.”
There is great truth in that. A grandparent sees beyond the dirty face, the torn jeans that a parent frets over. A grandparent has been there and discovered those concerns are unimportant.
A child needs rules and guidance. Ideally parents supply those.
Kids also need fun and emotional support. Grandparents offer both in abundant supply.
So, take a moment, and realize the valuable role your parents played in your life. Then thank them for their unique role in your child’s life. Your kids do.